That teen who is subtly pushing you away or actively avoiding you isn’t rejecting you because it’s not about you at all. In fact, if you help them navigate this time period instead of tugging closer or pushing back, you’ll return to solid ground. This is what is really happening: Your teenage baby bird needs to believe that they don’t need you in order to gather the courage to leave the security of your nest and head into the unknown. Your teen needs a boost of courage. Point out moments that prove they have the ability to fly.